I am introvert person with an extrovert attitude, that’s funny part!! I always used to struggle to connect with new people, it was big deal for me to talk with a stranger, but soon I realized that limiting my circle is not going to help me in long run, I started my job as an administrative assistant and I wanted to reach on top position but if I continue to be introvert and limit my network that would have been difficult.
Connecting new people in my job and outside helped me to build my network and learn new things from each and every one I meet. Over a period of time I understood a fun part of connecting new people and getting inspired by their life stories.
It is not easy to go and talk with someone who is completely stranger but I learned and changed my habits to make new friends.
Great things come to those who are willing to risk rejection and put themselves out there. It’s an empowering mindset to be able to create conversation with potentially anyone. There is always the choice to talk to whom I want to talk to.
Some people opened up to me. Some people stayed shut down. Some of them continued talking about themselves when I put the spotlight on them. Others simply answered my question and left the conversation there.
All of these interactions allowed me to understand how to engage with people. For example, I learned that tone of voice & body language are more important than saying the right thing.
That’s when I learned that it was up to me to be proactive and create my own doors instead of complaining that none were opening for me. It was up to me to create my own opportunities by connecting with people.
Besides feeling more connected, I feel happier knowing that I have the power to talk to whomever I want to. More opportunities arrived by networking with others. It helped to go up the ladder from just and an Admin assistant to a Supervisor and currently leading a great team of 50 people.
Here are some tips I learned about turning strangers in friends.
Greet with Smile and Say Magic world “Hi”
Looks so obvious, but its first barrier to open up, you have to take that first step to start the conversation.
I noticed that people are welcoming after you break the ice. It’s not something that everyone wants to do because it takes some courage to go up to someone you’ve never met before and start a conversation. However, more people are welcoming than we generally expect. When you encounter someone who isn’t, remember that someone else will be.
If they rejects you it’s there loss, don’t be judgmental just smile and let it go and don’t take it personally, if they passed taking up on the opportunity to connect with you that’s good for them
Break the fear and take the First Step
One of the best ways to combat the fear is to practice. Push through the fear and it will start to feel more natural. The fear may never fully subside, but if you continue to battle through it, the momentum you create will be more powerful than the remaining fear. I know it’s difficult but that’s the fun part and once you connect with them you will feel accomplished.
Listening is the Key
If you really want to connect, listen to them rather than just talking, people open up more when you encourage their thoughts and listen to them, they will connect you more easily when use correct body language, smile and encourage them to talk more.
Laughter makes the conversation fun and joyful. People enjoy talking with others who make them laugh. So get out of your head and don’t take anything too seriously—just have fun with it!
So keep practicing, more you go out and talk to different people more you will learn, it’s all about how genuinely you are taking that effort, after some time it will be just natural, people who know me now they will never say I am Introvert just because I developed that habit.
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